Shared view
Eight things you are each noticing while you get to know each other again. Record your own reading each week; your partner's appears once they record theirs too.
You
You
Your partner
Your partner
Curiosity
How much do I still want to know this person?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Understanding
How clearly do I understand who they are now?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Authenticity
Can I be myself around them?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Ease
How natural does our time together feel?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Reliability
Do their actions consistently match what they say?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Acceptance
Can I accept the person I am discovering rather than trying to change them?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Energy
Do interactions generally leave me energised, neutral or drained?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
Future fit
Does the life they want fit reasonably with the life I want?
You (you)
Not recorded this week.
Your partner
Visible once you both record this week.
Both of you need to record this before it can be compared.
There is no total relationship score. Where your two readings differ, the difference is kept visible rather than averaged — a large gap is something to be curious about, not a verdict.
Your own insightsOpen a conversation about a difference